1. the quality or fact of being honest; uprightness and fairness.
1. the true or actual state of a matter: He tried to find out the truth.
From a very young age most of us are taught to be polite, say the right things, and act appropriately. Unfortunately, this comes at a hidden cost. In an effort to be diplomatic we stop being true to ourselves. In other words, our integrity is compromised. Instead of being truthful about how we feel and what we think we instead sensor ourselves in the name of being socially acceptable and correct. We learn to conform, not hurt others feelings and care take each other emotionally. Western society truly does value form over spirit in many ways. The result is a feeling of being repressed and perhaps unfulfilled and frustrated. When we can’t speak directly to each other in a truthful manner and we are focused more on how things are being said rather than what is being said we create confusion and conflict in our relationships.
I’m not suggesting we become belligerent with each other in the name of truth telling, as some we all know however, I feel it’s of value to begin to be true to ourselves and then to be truthful with each other. I’ve always said to those in my life that I’d rather hear the truth than to be told an untruth or be deceived. To have integrity means to be honest and truthful. I think we need more of this in the world today. Relationships require tough conversations. We must pick up the role of truth teller in our lives. Our own health and the health of our relationships count on it.
If you are like me you want to know where you stand with others and you want to feel free to let others know where you stand as well. Let’s clear up the confusion begin by noticing where you sensor yourself, where you choose form over spirit and where you repress your true feelings and thoughts about a subject in order to fit in and not rock the boat.
Being honest does not have to mean being brutal. We can speak our truth in a gentle and kind way. We can be true to who we are and honor others in the process by being honest. Remember courage is acting in the face of fear not the absence of it.
In my campaign I stated I would dedicate myself to act with integrity, be accountable to you and display transparency in my role as the Region Director for Thompson Okanagan. In order to do this I must from time to time speak honestly to confront untruths, deceit or others acting without integrity and do so with diplomacy. In the next four years I know there will be many times when I must face with courage those that do not act with diplomacy and TOM will be just one communication source to speak to those times.
Marsee and Pishshapmishko Daniel Pitman Region Director Thomspon Okanagan